I was going to call this HOW TO LET GO OF NEGATIVE PEOPLE but, as I was researching and thinking and trying to write this post I realized something.
I can’t let go of negative people.
Neither can you.
You see, negative people or situations will always be around us.
And sometimes we might be that “negative person.”
It’s not like we can just cut out entire groups of people out of our life, right?
What if that negative person is your mom or your son or your spouse?
It’s not that easy is it?
So you see, instead of learning how to “let go” of negative people, we need to learn how to deal.
How to let go of negative people
Chances are if you’re searching for how to let go of negative people, you’ve been on this ride before. This ain’t your first rodeo. Am I right?
Did you ever wonder if perhaps you are attracting these negative personalities into your life so you can learn a lesson?
Maybe you haven’t learned that lesson yet so you continue to attract this negativity.
And here you are today reading this post, wondering what you should do. I want you to look back and think about the last negative situation you were in.
Ask yourself these questions:
Did you learn a lesson?
Did you handle the situation in a positive way?
Do you wish you could go back and handle it differently?
You might feel uncomfortable right now, thinking of that negative situation/person. And I bet you wish you would have handled yourself differently.
Before we get to the tips on how to deal with the negative situations and/or people I want you to do 2 things. First of all, don’t beat yourself up for how you acted in past negative situations. And second, take responsibility for your actions moving forward. You are the ONLY person who can change your mindset. Don’t ever blame others for your own bad mood or negativity.
Here are a few tips on how to deal with negative people or negative situations:
1. Remain calm and unemotional. You can make a lot of mistakes when you let your emotions get the best of you. Feeling mad? Want to get back at someone by passive aggressively posting on Facebook? Yeah, it’s not worth it. Instead do whatever it takes to calm yourself and settle your emotions.
This might mean walking away from the situation or person. Taking a break from that person. Stop and ask yourself if you are taking things too personal. Listen to music, move your body or mediate in order to relax and get a better understanding of the situation.
2. Don’t take the negative ride with people. No matter what we can’t get rid of all negative people. But, what we can do is choose to the let negative people process their own thing and we can jump off the ride. This means if you’re around someone who’s just on this negative rampage, recognize that and back away. Remember–you don’t need to sympathize, you don’t need to fix and most importantly you don’t need to judge.
Just let that person be. You can try to redirect the conversation by not participating in gossip. Just change the subject.
If you can’t change the subject or feel like you’re about to lose it, it’s probably time to get going.
3. Don’t feel like you have to engage in battle. You are sitting there and you think what this person is saying is wrong. Maybe it’s about politics or religion or how to raise kids. Whatever, it doesn’t really matter. Because you, my happy friend, don’t have to be right. You don’t need to argue to get your point across. There’s no need to win. No need for grudges.
Go back to number 1 and 2: remain calm and unemotional and get off that negativity train!
Dealing with negative people
Did you realize the best way to “deal with negative people” is really all about how you handle yourself?
Positivity is absolutely a choice. You can choose to be a happy person. To pull optimism out of the never-ending realm it lives in. Or, you can choose pessimism. You’ll find that everywhere. Because our society is quick to tell us how we’re not good enough. We don’t have enough money. We didn’t spend enough years in school. The list goes on and on…
Let those thoughts go. They are all lies.
The truth is you are good enough. You are more than good enough. You are everything.
I just want you to know that choosing positivity and kindness is the best thing you will do for yourself, your family and others.
Always remember to be kind.
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