Hey there! This post is part of my series A Year of Positivity, each month I add one new post into the series that will help both of us keep on living life with a positive attitude.
Sometimes I sucked into a vortex of negativity. Most of the time it’s my own fault (more like every single time) and I beat myself up over it. Does that ever happen to you?
Here’s what happens to me: I let a situation (that I have no control over) ruin my mood. I stress about it. I talk about and I don’t stop thinking about it.
And it gets to me.
If you’re still reading, I’m thinking you sometimes struggle with staying positive too.
Maybe you have someone in your life who is a negative-Nancy and you’re starting to feel that way too. Or maybe you are the negative-Nancy.
Or you’ve lost your job. Or had a huge life-changing event happen.
If this is you every single day, that’s not a good thing.
And you might want to reach out to others for help if you can’t snap out of it.
Personally, I am not a natural at being positive every day. In fact, that’s the whole reason I started A Year of Positivity series. I wanted to grow towards being more positive and happy.
How To Stay Positive When You Feel Like You Can’t
1. Stop comparing yourself, your work, your life.
I truly believe comparison is the thief of joy.
When you compare yourself to someone else you are robbing yourself of happiness! Don’t do that to yourself.
Comparison creates pain whether you want it to or not.
I’ve found that practicing gratitude for everything and everyone in my life is a great way to combat the comparison trap. I either write down what I’m grateful for or I pray and thank God.
2. Talk to someone you trust and get a reality check.
My trusted person is my husband. He knows me. He can tell when I want to vent and when I really need advice. And he’s not afraid to tell me the truth. He’ll tell me when I’m being too sensitive, when he thinks I need to get over something and most importantly, he’ll tell me when I’m wrong.
I’m not going to lie. It’s hard to hear the truths he speaks sometimes. But, I know he is telling me what I need to hear, not what I want to hear.
It’s important to get a reality check from someone who is going to tell you how it is. Not someone who is going to agree with everything you say.
‘Cause we’re human. We make mistakes and we need people to call us out on it sometimes. Otherwise, how will we ever grow?
One more thing, be prepared to hear the truth and don’t be hurt. Learn from it. Once you talk out your issue, let it go and don’t keep talking about your troubles.
Concentrate on your joys!
3. Get with people who are encouraging, make a new friend if you have to!
If you’re like me, and you can easily get sucked into negativity, you might want to consider stepping back from the people in your life who are ALWAYS negative.
I feel like it’s okay to take a break from people, especially if they are not encouraging. Life is too short to be bogged down with everyone else’s self-esteem problems.
This post, by Pam has great tips on How to Make New Friends.
I’m not telling you to drop all your friends and start over. I am saying make sure you spend your time with people who are motivating instead of pessimistic.
There’s this saying to consider: ” You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with, choose carefully.”
Staying Positive–One More Thing.
Staying positive is all about your mindset. Your attitude. You can change your day. You can change your life.
Don’t just wish things to change and don’t keep doing the same things every day and keep hoping for a change. It’s not gonna happen.
Fix your eyes on positivity, on good things. Everything else will fall into place.
Let’s practice some positive thinking–tell me one good thing that’s happened to you this week!
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- Handy tips for focusing on positivity throughout your week.
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