Being a parent is a blessing. It can also be tough, mentally and physically draining. If you’ve got kids you know what I’m talking about! My last post 7 Easy Ways to be a Happy Mom was popular and it was one of my favorite posts to write. Here are 7 More Ways to be A Happy Mom.
7 MORE WAYS TO BE A HAPPY MOM
Focus on the Positive
The only way to be a positive mom is to be a positive person. Negativity, yelling, and screaming will erode the relationship with your child. I’ve learned this lesson many, many times.
Sometimes I come across very bluntly with my kids, or even too strict. My husband’s favorite saying is, “You’ll catch more bees with honey than you will with vinegar.”
This is true with parenting too. I find my kids respond better to me when I can give them direction from a calm, focused state of mind instead of a mad-mom state of mind.
This means when I’m mad at something they’ve done I won’t confront it right away. I try and wait until I can be calmer and less emotional about the situation.
Another way you can be positive is by always encouraging your kids. Notice when they’re doing something right, tell them how happy you are to be their mom. Always be the number one person your kids can go to.
Spend One-on-One Time Together
It is easy to forget that our children need one-on-one time with us on a regular basis.
Try to plan dates such as playing basketball together, grabbing a burger or going to the movies. If you are short on time, it can be as simple as spending ten minutes chatting together before bedtime each night.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Try not to be a parent who overreacts to everything, as this will slowly but surely cut away at the strong relationship you have with your child.
When you are tempted to yell, breathe deeply and count to ten. More times than not, you will realize the issue is not worth damaging your relationship over.
Give Your Love
Every child has a different means of expressing their love, and this correlates directly to how they like to receive it. I did a breakdown on Love Languages for kids on the podcast, find it here.
Some children need to spend lots of time with their parent, while others are built up when they receive an encouraging note from you.
Find your child’s specific way of receiving love, and make a point of giving love in this way regularly. This builds a strong parent and child relationship.
Be Trustworthy
If you want a close relationship with your child, you must be trustworthy. Keep your promises, and show your kids they can count on you for anything they need. Do your best never to betray that trust.
Watch Your Words
Another aspect of trust is using your words wisely as a parent. What seems like one small put-down or insult to you can really harm a child’s self-esteem, and can negatively affect your relationship for years to come.
Let everything that comes from your mouth be encouraging, and use your words to build your child up to become a strong and confident individual.
Be Available on Their Time Schedule
Your child may not pick the most convenient time to engage in a conversation, but you should be a willing participant no matter when it is.
Many children open up and share their deepest thoughts when they are supposed to be getting into bed for the night.
Instead of resenting this, work a time to chat into their bedtime routine so that they can count on having those moments together on a nightly basis.
Building a relationship with your child comes naturally, but it is not always easy. With these tips, you can find many ways to nurture the relationship you value.
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