If you struggle with living life with a positive attitude you’ve come to the right place. The last few posts in my series A Year of Positivity have been pointing us to a happier life with less worry. We talked about:
- Happiness: Choosing To Live On The Bright Side
- 27 Things To Do When You Are Sad
- My Golden Rule: Be Kind
- How To Stop Worrying
No matter how many posts I write on being positive and how to quit worrying I still find myself floating into negative territory and worrying about things I cannot control. I find myself going back to my posts and re-reading my own advice and thoughts.
This got me to thinking about what was consuming my mind. If I let worry and hopelessness consume my thoughts my whole life responds. I become a negative person who refuses to see a positive outcome in any situation, you know–the person who wants no solution to her problem. I overthink situations and conversations. I don’t give myself any grace. I give up on things.
Does that sound like something you go through too?
If you can relate read on to find out what helps kick me out of a negative nancy funk.
Step One: Stop The “What If” Scenarios
The issue I was having this week was one of worry. I was replaying scenarios in my head and wondering how things were going to work out. I finally told my brain to STOP with all the “what if” scenarios and I redirected my thoughts.
I reminded myself to not worry about the other guy. Instead I told myself to focus on doing my absolute best no matter where I was working or what I was doing.
Step Two: Practice Gratitude = Positive Attitude
When the worrying really set in, part of redirecting my thoughts consisted of reminding myself everything I was grateful for. My husband, my family, the dog. My home. My coffee in the morning! Every single little and big thing that I love I am grateful for. Reminding myself of how blessed I am always overrides the negative thinking.
Sometimes I just run through the list in my head, especially if I’m driving. Or I’ll keep a gratitude journal, I really like this One Line A Day memory journal from Amazon.
Step Three: Believing
I am not the most religious person. I am the first to admit that I have so much to learn. However, I do believe in God. I believe He is good and has good plans in store for me.
I understand that no matter what I am going through I can handle it with Him by my side. The song, Thy Will by Hilary Scott is so special to me. If you haven’t heard it, you can–I’m linking to it below. This song helped me through a very tough time in my life.
It’s the song I listened to right after my grandpa (who was on hospice care) told me he wanted to quit dialysis. I remember I wanted to beg him to keep going. I wanted him alive and with us for as long as possible. Instead I kissed him on the cheek and walked away. I listened to Thy Will, reminded myself that I am not God and just cried my eyes out.
The verse in the song, ” I know You’re good. But this don’t feel good right now,” was exactly how I felt. I was beyond heartbroken. But, I never lost my faith in Him. He is greater than I am. And I wholeheartedly believe He will see me through everything in this life.
What is consuming your mind right now?
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Love this Crystal! Such a great reminder to stay positive, not dwell on negative thoughts and look at the brighter things in life. Love the redirecting yourself from negative thoughts to reminding yourself about what you are grateful for.
Thanks Ros Emely. So happy you liked the post!