I received this question in my inbox the other day: How do you stay so positive?
Here’s the funny thing, in the past I was the MOST negative person ever. And even though I”ve been working on positivity for the last several years, the question through me off track.
So, I sat down and drew a web chart about my positivity. Kinda nerdy, right? But, doing so helped me figure out the 5 main ways I stay in a positive mindset.
I’m going to share those with you today.
5 WAYS I KEEP A POSITIVE MINDSET
1. I don’t take things personally. I used to take everything so personal and make everyone’s personal problems into my own problems. In other words – I got into other people’s business when I had no business being in there! Now, I realize everyone has their own agenda and 99% of the time they way they act or don’t act has NOTHING to do with me.
I can separate the actions of others so that I am not affected by what they do. For example, I used to get so offended/embarrassed when my kids misbehaved. I felt like as their mom and step-mom their actions directly reflected my parenting and my character. This made me into a not -so -fun mom. I was super strict and always annoyed with my kids.
Being able to separate their actions from equalling my self-worth made me into a better mom and person. I realized my kids are little people and they’re gonna do things I don’t like or approve of. And those things have nothing to do with me as a person or me as a mom.
I also don’t take the actions of my friends or family personally. I knew someone starting a new business and sharing posts on Facebook about it. This woman was so annoyed when her “close” friends didn’t comment or share and kept talking about them. She was taking their lack of commenting very personal!
What she didn’t think of was this: maybe those friends didn’t see her post? Maybe those friends scrolled by and got distracted before being able to comment? Maybe those friends are going through a hard time in life and don’t feel like engaging online? There are so many possibilities and none of them have to do with her as a person. Instead of taking it personal, she could have used that energy in a positive way to further her business.
2. I am in charge of the media/news/accounts I consume. I don’t watch the news regularly. Most of the time the news makes me scared, or sad or just puts me into a bad mood. So, I quit watching the news. I also don’t allow my mother to tell me news stories. (She shares terrible, heart- breaking stories so I had to ask her to stop.)
I don’t follow accounts or influencers online that share shady things like fake news, shaming people or bad news all the time.
There are no rules saying you have to watch the news. There are no rules saying you have to follow people online. The block and unfollow buttons are my friends.
3. I stopped comparing myself to others. Comparison sucks the fun out of life. It walks in, invades your mental space and the next time you open your eyes nothing around you is good enough.
Comparison creates pain. When I do feel like I’m comparing my life or work or body with someone else I’ll try to combat the comparison trap by focusing on gratitude.
4. I understand self-care is 100% necessary and effective. My self-care is time I use to reset and refresh my perspective. Self-care can be as simple as a hot bath or a good book on the patio. I don’t feel guilty for self-care because it helps me be a better person, mom and wife.
Regular, scheduled self-care time helps keep me uplifted and happy. Taking care of myself is part of taking care of my kids.
I have so many self-care resources on the blog.
5. I know whatever is meant for me will always be available to me. I let go of FOMO. I believe this is the most life changing belief. In the past I always felt like everyone had something that I was missing. I changed my mindset so that I have a deep faith in abundance.
All the good things that are meant for me will make their way towards me. No one and nothing can block the abundance, so I have no reason to feel like I’m missing out.
These are the 5 main ways I keep myself in a positive mindset. I also do things like meditations, Reiki healings and prayer. And there are so many other ways to keep positive like journaling, volunteering and affirmations.
I believe in trying everything and sticking with what works.
What about you? How do you keep a positive mindset? Let me know in the comments.
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- Handy tips for focusing on positivity throughout your week.
- Tricks for getting your kids to listen to your every word (just kidding,Girl-- I'm still working on getting my kids to listen!) But I will send you fun activity ideas for you and your kids to do together.
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Spread the positive vibes and it will come back to you.
What goes around comes around. 🙂 🙂