How is happiness found?
What do we have to do to be happy? How does that work?
Happiness for me doesn’t mean I have everything in it’s perfect place. Although, I won’t lie. I wish I had everything in a perfect place.
To me, happiness is looking at the mess, whether it’s at work, at home (don’t get me started on my house, I’m already thinking I need a maid) or in my own head–seeing everything that has to be done, maybe feeling overwhelmed but always knowing what a blessing my life is.
It doesn’t matter what’s on my to-do list.
How many dishes are dirty in the sink.
Or how many errands I need to run.
What matters most is that I am living this life with people I love. I am doing things I love.
One way I find happiness when I’m not feeling it, is by finding things to be grateful for. When I list everything I have right in front of me I am humbled. Seriously! Sure, I complain that my 3 year old acts up, but I would not trade her (or the other kids) for anything in this world!
What I am grateful for:
- I have beautiful children. They are healthy. They are happy. They know they are loved. My children give me happiness.
- I have a husband that I could brag about for days. Seriously though. I don’t brag about him for days because it’s considered braggy, or rude or whatever. But let me tell you, I will never deserve him. He’s patient, which is the opposite of me, but hey, I’m working on it. He’s kind. People want to be his friend, want to work with him because he genuinely cares for others. He’s a hard-working man. He’s handsome. He’s loyal. I’ll always feel safe when I’m with him. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to say that my husband is the perfect man. He is however, the perfect man for me. My husband gives me happiness.
- My work is fulfilling. I’m a nurse educator. I am in my element as a nurse and teaching has always been a calling for me. There is nothing better than waking up happy to go to work every single day.
- I have this little blog. My own place to share all kinds of things. Starting a blog was SCARY. Especially because deep down I’m such an introvert. I’ve noticed that I really love the connections, the friends, and the work that I encounter in this blogging atmosphere.
The work I do gives me happiness.
Being happy is a states of mind. You choose it.
You can either look at the bright side during dim situations in your life. Or you can make them darker. I am definetly my own worst enemy. I can be the worst negative-nancy where I just want to shut the world out, sleep all the problems away.
But most of the time I choose happiness.
Why am I sharing this?
I’m sharing this with you- my own struggle with being a negative-nancy and my continued efforts to push past that negativity into a life of positive thinking because I know YOU may struggle with being negative too!
How to Choose Happiness
Make yourself a list of what you are grateful for in this moment. In this very moment I am grateful for a quiet home, my mini candle and a glass of wine. Just in case you cared to know 😉 Choosing to dwell on the things you are grateful for can help shift your bad mood into a better perspective.
Write down a list of “mood-shifters.” Mood shifters are funny or sweet situations from my life that I write down and keep with me. When I feel sad, mad or whatever I take them out and read them. I wrote down what I felt when I graduated nursing school and a total stranger at Wendy’s told me how proud she was of me. I wrote down funny things my son said to me when he was a toddler. They still make me laugh. I started doing this over 5 years ago. My updated advice would be to keep your mood shifters in your phones notebook app.
Be mindful. Remember that life will not always be this way. Your kids will not always be crazy (at least I hope not, someone please tell me they’ll grow out of it!) Your house won’t always be a mess. Remember the seasons in our lives can change quickly. Maybe today you are sad, wondering how you’ll ever see things differently. That’s okay. Sometimes I’m right there with you. You don’t have to stay sad forever. Acknowledge your despair. Let yourself feel it. But be mindful that you need to focus on choosing happiness.
Just know: You are loved. You are worthy. You can do great things.
There are so many things you can do to focus on happiness. I could (and I will) write more blogs posts about choosing happiness. For now you can focus on making me happy and sign up for my email list.
This is the first post in the series A Year of Positivity. I’ve shared how easy it is for me to fall into the dark side of negativity. I’ve decided to step it up and continuously surround myself with positivity.
By following along you’ll find out about the tools, tips and tricks I’m using to live a happier, healthier and most of all more positive life. See you soon!
The next post in the positivity series is: 27 Things to do When You Feel Sad
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